After a brief, shining period of group Warhammer 40K gaming in college, much of my gaming and hobby activities have been a solo activity. For various reasons my time and ability to play in a group at a FLGS has been extremely limited. Fortunately, we live in an age of connectivity that lets us interact with people around the globe. Even if your face to face gaming is not at the level you would like it, there is a nearly unlimited amount of game talk, hobby talk, and even virtual gaming at our fingertips.
If you are really lucky, the virtual is supported by a Favorite Local Gaming Store. A place to meet up, play games, buy stuff, and talk shop. I have two shops close enough, and several more a bit further out. I can spend a long time at my FLGS. Our House Games has a constant series of gaming nights, from minis, to card games, board games and of course, DnD. I can never make a quick stop in. Most every time I am there for a paint or model purchase, I stay for a discussion of gaming and modeling and conventions. The owners are long-time gamers and are always good for fun chats on most any aspect of gaming. I hope your local scene has at least one place you can go to be with “our people”.
My Warhammer 40K gaming experience really only spanned two years. Every Thursday I had my GW figure cases stacked by the door waiting for my wife to come home from work. We did the child hand-off, and I was gone. I was rarely the first person there, and many nights saw 20 people vying for table space. My armies were Catachans, then Space Marines, and eventually Imperial Guard. One case became four, plus a tote for vehicles.
When I started playing there were a pair of guys who hung out all the time. One played Eldar, the other had am OOP Harlequin army. Those guys ate my lunch, and weren’t gentle. They had a lot of special rules and made lots of rerolls. For everything. To hit. To wound. To save. Everything got a reroll. Sometimes more than one. It took me some time, and an Eldar codex purchase to figure it out. They were terrible cheaters. Since I was the new guy, it was “tag, you’re our patsy”. I called the elder player out the next time we played, and he picked up his toys and went home. Never played either one again.
I had discovered the regular 40K game night, though, so it was no loss at all. All you had to do was show up, and people were waiting. Imperial Guard and Space Marines galore. A couple elder players who were pretty dominating without needing to cheat. A Genestealer cult army played alongside a couple tyranid armies. Tau showed up as the new kid in town. At least one player had Dark Eldar. And of course, Chaos Marines and Orks.
The room was cramped. The terrain was a mixed bag of seriously cool, and seriously worn out. The shop stayed open pretty late on game nights for the inevitable dice purchase when your dice failed you one too many times. Or for much needed reinforcements for next week.
Once the gaming ended, the discussions began. It was rare that we headed out before 1am. And pretty common to be hanging around still talking 40K at 3am. Fluff. History. Possibilities. Whatever Black Library books we had most recently read. It didn’t matter. We were among friends and laughing, dreaming, connecting.
Our one-off games turned into mega-games and campaigns. We discovered Battle Fleet Gothic and added fleet games and orbital assaults. Or lance strikes. Those were always fun if they hit their target. We improvised and tweaked and gamed. For over a year it was glorious.
A few players had drifted away. New blood was trickling in, and one of my three armies was always being loaned to a new player. The group was pretty strong and every week was lots of fun.
Unfortunately, the core group came together near the end of the college experience. Five of us all graduated or left at the same time. Poof. The organizers behind all the madness were gone. Thursday night was still 40K, but for a long time it wasn’t the same.
I was off on a training assignment that lasted 5 months. I mail ordered some Warhammer Fantasy models and paints to pass the very little free time. I didn’t have a car though, so weekly gaming or even visits to a game store were out of the question. The group I was training with looked at my hobby like I was a crazy person, and beyond a few random questions, I never talked gaming. Connections lost.
At my first duty station I found the local shop quick as I could. It was small, but had a decent Games Workshop selection, and a fair amount of paints. The game room was even smaller than before. It had maybe three 4’x 6’ tables. I eventually made it on a game night, and was sorely disappointed. In college, nearly every army was painted. Not always well painted, but there was paint on the models. At this shop several players didn’t even see the need to finish building the models to play.
Ok, I get it. You are so excited you want to get stuck in. Glue some legs to bases and Bob’s your uncle. I can deal with that once, or even twice. I went back to see if it was an aberration. Unfortunately, it was not. Five years later there were the same players playing with bare plastic legs for Space Marines.
I never played at that shop. Maybe I could have shamed them into building and painting their models. I don’t know. I was so disappointed in the local scene I just became a lurker. No connections still.
Internet forums were blossoming, and though I can’t give an exact date, I started connecting to gamers in far flung places. A couple of my hard core 40K buddies became disillusioned with GW and walked away from all their products. I met others who were just as deep in the lore and background as I was. This time, they were all around the world.
My interest in WW2 gaming soared during this period, and though there was really no one in the local area, a mere four hours’ drive was the heart of Flames of War gaming in Texas. I made the drive a couple times to play in FoW tourneys, meeting new people and finally having some long-missed hobby chats. This was an entirely new group of people, and I was clearly an outsider, but they were my people. Even the guy in the WW2 Russian hats. Hats because one year it might be a tanker helmet, the next an officer’s dress hat, and so on.
And the diversity of gamers!
No cringey neckbeards dearly in need of a bath. No, the Austin, Texas gaming scene was college kids, and middle aged office types. Contractors and professors. A good mix of long term gamers and 40K players branching out. I exchanged some emails and promised to see them at the next tournament. Connections.
In 2006 I happened into a play by email game called Subs Ahoy. I don’t remember how I lucked into one of the first play test games, but I did. And I played for years. Australians and Kiwis, Icelanders and Brits. Irishmen and Canadians. And a couple blokes from the USA. I was totally connected to a crazy gaming group again. Much of the play was solitary, and in game communication was limited and GM controlled. No cheating! But it was so much fun. A deeper discussion is a topic for another article.
Around the same time I got into another play by email game. It was based off the board game Mustangs, and the group had some well-established players who knew how to play. I was pretty much a target for those guys and almost never even pulled the trigger. It was fun, but frustrating.
Still, I connected to other gamers. In both groups I met and corresponded with people about scenarios and theaters and games. No models, these were purely pen and paper gamers, but I got to game!
I continued with Subs Ahoy after a transfer took me from Texas to Michigan. Yet again, I searched out the local game store as soon as I could. Definitely before I unpacked, because we lived in a cramped apartment for a year while we tried to sell our house. That shop folded a few years later, and I can’t say I am surprised. The local crowd wasn’t very welcoming save one or two players. And the guy that ran the shop was as unfriendly as they come. He would grunt at you when he rang you up, but never even asked if you needed help. He was too busy painting 40K models, and the cabinets were full of lovely Battlefront and Games Workshop models. Unfortunately, the FOW gaming was on Sundays, and I don’t game on Sundays. No connection.
I found another, bigger shop a bit further away. As far as paints and models went, it was very well stocked. The staff was not much better though. Many of them seemed to be into Magic and other card games and I don’t recall much conversation about gaming or collectioning or painting. No connection.
I still played Subs Ahoy for a few more years. The Mustangs group kind of let my “membership” slip. I sucked, I know. But a lost connection.
When the Four Army Project started I was on several forums and I was very active. Probably more than I am now. I met and chatted and discussed with all sorts from all over. Over the next ten years I met gamers and hobbyists from the Ukraine and Serbia. From France and Italy and Germany. Mexico, Argentina, Spain, Russia, Wales, Scotland all sorts from England. I even reconnected with one of the 40K group from college. Connected all over.
Facebook, the bane and boon of modern life, led to many more groups and endless micro conversations over painting techniques, color choices, and army lists. Even though my gaming continues to be fairly solitary, I talk about the hobby more than ever.
I think it was over at the The Miniatures Page that I first stumbled onto the Carrion Crow and Hos delicious madness of Blackwell. That started a series of connections and conversation with The Carrion Crow himself, and others in his blog circle, that led to this blog.
These new connections led to more conversations of gaming and hobby plans. Discussions of rare or OOP models and books and long forgotten campaigns. Connections that led to gaming acquisitions and divestitures that never would have happened without a legion of friends around the world.
My decision to finally attend a major gaming convention payed off handsomely. The gaming has been spectacular and the inspiration nearly boundless. I’ve had some missteps as I have discussed elsewhere, but on the whole it has been such an incredible experience. Far beyond the games are the people I have met. Too many names, and I don’t want to forget anyone. Craziest part is traveling 8+ hours (488 miles/ 785 km) to meet people who live an hour away!
If I am being honest, the first time I attended Fall In was pretty terrifying. It’s a bit overwhelming at first. So much to take in and so many people. I was lucky that my best mate and gaming buddy attended with me, but we were a little lost that first day. By the end we had met fellow gamers and Game Masters who were just like us. Looking for a good gaming experience, a fun event, and making some new friends.
Year after year I look for some of the same GMs and games. Partly because I know a quality game will be hosted, mostly it is hoping I will sit side by side with gamers I have connected with and share this passion. And to help ease any new players into the craziness that some of the games bring. Exploding cows? First boom card every game? Battle of Hastings gone wrong? All phrases that lead to howls of laughter with the right group due to strong connections.
Diving into X-Wing and Star wars Armada led to more connections on a whole new set of forums. X-Wing also allowed me to really connect to several of the young men in our church youth group. I was the youth pastor at the time and brought all my X-wing ships in for game nights and campaign Saturdays. A couple of them loved X-Wing and bought their own ships. After that we had long chats about tactics and fleet builds and upcoming releases. One teen ended up introducing it to his younger brother. His dad told me about all the money his son had spent on ships and I started to apologize. Our hobby isn’t cheap. Dad stopped me with “No, I don’t mind at all. They are spending more time together now playing X-Wing than they ever have before.” Connected.
My experience at Fall In led to more gaming conventions. And more connections. Playing a game with one of the major play testers for a well received rule set is pretty much fanboy heaven. That I have email corresponded with him beyond that still geeks me out.
I also took the jump into Comic Cons and attended the Indianapolis Comic Con a couple years ago. I took my whole family and we all connected over our love of comic heroes, superhero movies, costumes, harry Potter, Lord of the Rings an host of other things. Meeting James and Oliver Phelps at that con was both a highlight, and a connection. As famous as they are, they were super cool and the nicest guys. I can imagine playing a board game or table top game with them and having a great time.
Comic Con led to Star Wars Celebration 2019 and more connections. Meeting one of my favorite YouTube content creators and having him explain the rules for a new game was super cool. Finally meeting a fellow who hosts a podcast i was a special guest on once was even better. We played a couple FFG games together and share a love of Outer Rim now. That weekend led to me being more involved in the Credible Nerds podcast, even co-hosting a couple episodes.
Our shared interests allow us to connect across national boundaries and language barriers. My circle of friends rings the globe. How has your hobby journey progressed? What connections have you made that make your hobby better? I’d love to hear about them!
For me, these connections have led to 2nd Golden Age. And it is shining brightly!